Michelle Mays

The Betrayal Bind

(Second Edition)

How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Hurts You the Worst

Discovering a partner’s sexual betrayal spins your world out of control. In a split second, your sense of safety is shattered, your trust is gone, and everything you thought you could count on is in question.

The Betrayal Bind is here to help you make sense of the devastation that infidelity creates. Whether you have experienced an emotional affair, physical affair, sex or porn addiction, you need expert help and support to heal.

This book will help you understand exactly what happens when you experience betrayal, why your own reactions may confuse you, and how to navigate the challenges now present in your relationship, whether you are staying or leaving.

By focusing on how a partner’s attachment system functions in the wake of sexual betrayal, The Betrayal Bind offers a new, game-changing exploration into an age-old problem and connects the dots from research to the lived experience of betrayed partners.

In the revised and updated Second Edition of The Betrayal Bind, find out how to resolve the crucial relational dilemma that betrayed partners face when their significant other is unsafe to connect to, yet connection is the key to healing.

When It All Breaks Bad

Cheating changes your world in an instant. Your past, present and future are re-written as the lies and betrayal surface. In the days and weeks that follow, clarity, direction and support are vital.

When It All Breaks Bad: 10 Things to Do (And Not Do) After Betrayal is designed to help you navigate the pivotal days following the discovery of betrayal by providing concrete guidance and support. Each chapter outlines the ten steps to take to quickly move you toward healing and the ten pitfalls to avoid that can hijack your progress.

Whether the cheating manifests as an isolated infidelity or a sexual addiction, this book is your guide to taking positive action on your own behalf after betrayal.

The Aftermath of Betrayal

Nothing can prepare you for the moment you discover that the person closest to you, who you count on the most, has betrayed you. If you have experienced sexual betrayal, you need help navigating the emotional devastation that follows. Making sense of your experience is the first step toward healing.

The Aftermath of Betrayal, is intended to help you identify and articulate your experience. During a time when your mind and body are overwhelmed and a full-size read may feel daunting, this book is designed with short easily digested chapters to point you in the right direction. The Aftermath of Betrayal will give you words, language, and concepts to describe the storm of betrayal and guide you through helpful exercises that move you toward healing.

Even more importantly, this book exists to give you hope. Hope that there is a path through the trauma of betrayal, markers along the way to point you in the right direction, and plenty of help and support available for you.

About Michelle.

Michelle Mays is a Licensed Professional Counselor and expert in treating sexual betrayal and trauma. She is the founder of the Relational Recovery Institute in Northern Virginia outside of DC and the creator of the Braving Hope Coaching program for individuals recovering from betrayal trauma.

Michelle has created a new attachment-based approach called The Braving Model™ to address the devastating dilemma that betrayed partners face when their significant other is unsafe to connect to, yet connection is the key to healing. She offers professional training and certification in the model to therapists treating partner betrayal trauma.

Michelle is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Supervisor in both Virginia and Washington DC, and a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and Supervisor. She was trained by Pia Mellody in the Post Induction Therapy model for treating developmental trauma and is a Certified Professional Coach.